As a man what do you use your word for?


By: N. George

Worth Noting:

  • There are other parents who differ with their kids not because their children have uttered a bad word against them but due to the spouse of their child not being the parent choice, the parent develop bad blood and start ill talking about their kid’s family eventually shaking the lives of these children.
  • It is quite unfortunate that such parents are unwilling to let their kids enjoy independence of thought in life. A parent who utters a bad word and possesses ill will acts as a destructive tool that dims the stars of their kids instead of helping it to shine brighter and brighter.
  • When a parent supports the will of child to succeed in life the focus of the child is not distracted as there is no one offering a differing option. The kid maintains clarity in life, directs energies to a well-defined course boosting chances of success.

There is an old saying that man only dares use his words for three purposes, to “heal, bless or prosper.” What man says of others will be said of him, and what he wishes for another, he is wishing for himself.…… Florence Scovel Shinn, The Game of Life and How to Play It

Everyone in this world is gifted with one kind of talent or the other and every gift is important and sufficient. One can apply it and live a decent live void of struggles in the area of gifting. There is creativity when one utilizes his or her gift as a way of making something for a living. However, not everyone knows his gift or if they do no everyone is willing to capitalize on his gift to benefit from it.

Some parents love their children a lot. This makes them to provide all the necessary care to enable them to succeed in life. Some of them go a further step ensure there is safety belt for these kids they give their children a name similar to theirs so that anyone who knows them can associate their kids to parents’ name. Their will is a good one it is in favour of their kids.

There are those parents who for one reason or another they do not have a lot of material wealth. This make them not to have a lot to support their kids with a lot of material resources so what they do is to wish their kids favourable lives or luck without caring whatever task their children will engage in provided it is legally acceptable they use words like “My son or my daughter, I do not have much that I can give to you all I wish you is to succeed in whatever you do.” As an English saying goes charity begins at home, many are times that these children succeed in whatever task they engage in. Some of these children start to work as parking boys, house girls or workers in car wash and they succeed. They find favour in the works that they do.

There is that group of parents who love their children to an extent that they think of the most successful person whom they know about and advise their children to study a course or pursue a career that is similar to what that favourite person pursues. They go ahead and support their children in pursuing that course.

At times the children are able to successfully pursue these parents’ guided careers and all goes well with them. Other parents encourage their children to pursue career paths similar to theirs. In one way or the other most of these children succeed in their pursuits.  Parental blessings are important, usually there are no contradictions to most of such lives of children that are supported by their children.

There are times when the gifting of the parents is not similar to those of the parents so you find even career preferences of the parent varying from that of the parents. Not all parents are willing to accept this to them their children should achieve the highest standards as per their perspective. Should their children differ with their parents’ choice of career these parents keep blaming the children and at times cursing them. High are chances that despite the excellence in academics they may end up facing many hurdles in their careers and life in general. The role of the parent here was using their strength of words and will to pull down their kids instead of wishing them success.

There are other parents who differ with their kids not because their children have uttered a bad word against them but due to the spouse of their child not being the parent choice, the parent develop bad blood and start ill talking about their kid’s family eventually shaking the lives of these children.

It is quite unfortunate that such parents are unwilling to let their kids enjoy independence of thought in life. A parent who utters a bad word and possesses ill will acts as a destructive tool that dims the stars of their kids instead of helping it to shine brighter and brighter.

When a parent supports the will of child to succeed in life the focus of the child is not distracted as there is no one offering a differing option. The kid maintains clarity in life, directs energies to a well-defined course boosting chances of success.

Differences in opinions between parent and the kid distracts the later divides attention, reduces momentum and resultant products from their energies are made inferior. Parents should desist from bringing confusion in the lives of their kids through ill will. Unless the path taken by their kids is illegal if so, they should advise their children to change it with convincing reasons.

When there is unhealthy relationship between your kid and his or her spouse as a parent you need not to take side without listening to both sides otherwise the you will hurt one of the affected parties. When you are biased in judgement no suitable solution will be offered to the issues at hand. In such cases the parents will have used their power negatively to destroy the lives of the kids instead of using it constructively.

Parents need to know that their words are powerful then think of both the short term and long-term impact of their utterances to the lives of their children. No need to test dangerous tools of war like bitter words with their kids.

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