Online Dating


Abigirl Phiri, abigirlphiri@gmail.com

Worth Noting:

  • The only trouble with online dating is when things turn downhill. I am now talking about being catfished. This is a real thing no wonder Nevil on the MTV program “Catfish” ended up doing this reality show. Some people are masquerading as other people on dating sites and that becomes a big problem.
  • These pretenders or worse imposters can even go to the extent of posting fake pics and assuming phony names just to achieve their own means. Therefore my treasured readers, in conversing with your potential dates on the internet ask them to do video calls so that you will make sure you are not being taken for a fools ride.
  • Make sure the person you are talking to is really the one because at most times these cases are ending badly in tears and sometimes even in cold blood. Other people are human traffickers whilst others are psychopaths therefore these people’s trades have been made easy by the advent of online dating sites, so ladies be very careful because most times you are the victims.

With the advent of technology dating sites are now a common thing. I like to believe this practice is almost similar to the era whereby people indulged in putting pen to paper to get brides or bridegrooms that is the mail order brides/grooms. That being the case, the similarity in both cases is that you will be corresponding with a guy or lady whom you will be dating far away in another city.

However for the 21st century the beauty of online dating factors in the issue of real time in regards to receiving the messages/texts. Given the world is battling with Covid -19 global pandemic this might be an option for one to get a boyfriend or girlfriend through since it’s no longer possible to go in public places where we used to meet up new people and share some drinks especially in pubs.

To be frank, there is nothing bad with online dating contrary to the beliefs of many people especially in our African culture this is something which is looked down upon. Most of the elders do not understand the significance of finding a loved one through this way for they still harbor conservative thoughts.

My treasured readers l have to confide with you that l have once dated someone whom l met online and we actually had a nice time together before we went our separate ways. Henceforth, now we are really good lifelong friends. So yes online dating can be another possible way you can think of, to find your significant other. Despite the fact that the whole love issue is a tricky business because you can never know when Cupid arrow will strike you still it’s the best feeling ever in the whole world.

The only trouble with online dating is when things turn downhill. I am now talking about being catfished. This is a real thing no wonder Nevil on the MTV program “Catfish” ended up doing this reality show. Some people are masquerading as other people on dating sites and that becomes a big problem.

These pretenders or worse imposters can even go to the extent of posting fake pics and assuming phony names just to achieve their own means. Therefore my treasured readers, in conversing with your potential dates on the internet ask them to do video calls so that you will make sure you are not being taken for a fools ride.

Make sure the person you are talking to is really the one because at most times these cases are ending badly in tears and sometimes even in cold blood. Other people are human traffickers whilst others are psychopaths therefore these people’s trades have been made easy by the advent of online dating sites, so ladies be very careful because most times you are the victims.

It is always wise to ask these your girlfriends or boyfriends if you can meet up, whom you will be dating online. In fact don’t take long to do this because this is the only way you can prove you are not being duped. Being in a long distance relationship has its problems worse when you are dating a person online whom you have never met before. Consequently, it is always wise to desist from sharing sensitive information that is private with people you don’t know especially banking details.

Undoubtedly, cybercrime is another issue plaguing this era, so know how to conduct yourself on these dating sites. Nude pics are a straight “No” issue because they can be used to blackmail you later on when things turn sour. It’s always better to be safe than sorry. Adding to that, prevention is better than cure, so my beloved readers be very careful of people you talk to and those you get attached to on the internet, some are there to play with your hearts in the pretext of loving you. Don’t let love cloud your judgement to the extent that you do not know what you are doing.

However for others, online dating has been a bed of roses. This is because some have built strong foundations of marriages after having met online so it all depends on how serious the person you meet is. In any relationship it is all about love, commitment, trust and being able to communicate.

That said, how you will find love will differ from the next person. Interestingly enough, all is fair in love and war however just exercise caution on these online dating sites. Try to use them when you are really sure of what you are doing and what you are looking for. Let it be your alternative when meeting somebody face to face fails after all some of us have problems in meeting new guys or ladies because we tend to be painfully shy or not used to conversing with new people in our lives directly.

Indeed, online dating sites have turned to be sort of a haven to hide these insecurities. For those facing this predicament then go for it, there are plenty of online dating sites but just make sure the person you are dating is on the same page with you. I think that will be the most important starting point for you two love birds to build something tangible from.

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