By N. George
- The mother advises her daughter that despite having engaged at young age she should take her time before getting married so that she can learn more about her fiancée as this will help her to make decisions that are well informed.
- Few years after getting married she realizes that she rushed to make decisions and regrets why she refused to take heed of her mother’s advice.
- She appreciates that weighty decisions like the one requiring long-term commitment should be given a lot of considerations.
- A girl gets pregnant before marriage, she opts not to abort and many people laugh at her, prospective bridegrooms shun her.
If you are in-charge of other people you need to be rational in your decision making fully aware that they are not only affecting the current happenings but also the future ones.
However, due to human nature of selfishness not everyone who you see doing what may ruin him it would be safe for you to interfere with him as some may term you support as unsolicited advice and at times become hostile to you.
If your friend is accused of wrong doing and you know that he has done wrong then he invites to be his witness that he was not involved in the crime the right thing to do is to tell him to accept his fault and seek for fair settlement of the case but this would hurt him. If you would like to be friendly then you would accept to be his witness by giving false information. It is good if you decline to be involved in his case especially if you were not witness at all.
Many are times during our day-to-day activities when we are confronted with choices between doing what is right and what is friendly. It becomes tough especially when being right is seemingly hurting.
A lengthy look at similar cases in the past clearly shows that it is better to be right than to be friendly more so in cases where an unpleasant behaviour was tolerated the reason being one would not like to be seen as unfriendly only to end up harming the doer.
Those in charge of serious decision-making situations should be careful in their actions to avoid regrets in future especially in matters relating to parenting, management, policymaking and teaching.
A parent who realizes that his children are lazy and irresponsible may decides to take appropriate remedial measures by continually allocating duties to the them and strictly monitoring the progress ensuring they finish it timely and its well done.
The children may fail to appreciate the efforts of their parents instead see them as inconsiderate. When these children grow old, get married, have children the children become lazy and irresponsible they treat them the same way they were treated and that is when they realize how concerned and fore sighted their parents were.
To ensure accountability every action the children do should be given an evaluation if good the child is appreciated and at times rewarded with a present.
If bad, the child should be made aware of the consequences of his actions and if need be, when he becomes a perennial transgressor, he can be punished to deter him from conducting himself in unhealthy manner.
In presence of visitors, some parents caution the children not to stare at them or borrow either food or money from the visitors, the children may see this as discrimination in their own home but in the long-term they learn what boundaries are and why it is good to respect the boundaries.
The mother advises her daughter that despite having engaged at young age she should take her time before getting married so that she can learn more about her fiancée as this will help her to make decisions that are well informed.
Few years after getting married she realizes that she rushed to make decisions and regrets why she refused to take heed of her mother’s advice.
She appreciates that weighty decisions like the one requiring long-term commitment should be given a lot of considerations.
A girl gets pregnant before marriage, she opts not to abort and many people laugh at her, prospective bridegrooms shun her.
The decision though difficult helps her to avoid complications of abortion like failure to give birth in future. It also prevents her from feelings of guilt and regret that she made a mistake.
She is also relieved the burden of constant telling lies as a cover-up for fear that, if her future husband knows about her past bad deeds, he will divorce her.
An elderly man advises a newly married couple to avoid physical confrontation and fights. To them they feel bad that an outsider is interfering with their lives.
The time they injure each other and the case is taken to court and the judge punishes one or both of the parties is when they recall the words of their elder to avoid fights and embrace dialogue or use a mediator.
A father advises his teenage son to stop drinking beer in the name of fun. The son thinks that the dad is jealous of him enjoying life and continues having fun through drinking. The son is caught in school while drunk and is expelled for two weeks.
The father reduces the pocket money allocation to his son so that he does not have excess money to use for drinking beer consequently the son realizes his mistakes and resolves to stop drinking beer.
Though the father can be seen as unaccommodating, his action plays a great role in dissuading his son from engaging in inappropriate behaviours that if uncontrolled can result in alcohol addiction.
Everyone likes prestigious careers like medicine and engineering. Someone may approach you with the two choices for advice on which one suits him best then you
realise that much as he has good scores in academics his personality suit neither of the two.
An advisor who would just like to sound friendly would tell him to take either of them but someone who cares will go an extra and explain to him why he should explore a different field bearing in mind that career issue is something long-term. This will help him avoid future regrets.
You should watch whatever you do through action or inaction. Every decision you take will have the outcome if good you will enjoy if bitter then you will regret a lot.