Some of the fears that prevent people from engaging in relationships


Dating myths you have to bust if you want a happy love life.

By: N. George

Worth Noting:

  • This being the case whenever you meet and befriend someone you cannot automatically rule whether that person will be forever kind to you or may turn to be hostile whether in short run or long run.
  • It is not a wonder that some people who may wish to benefit from being associated to you may fake their appreciation for you only to defraud you or fulfill other selfish personal interests like accessing your network of friends through your friendship.
  • It is tricky to theoretically describe how your friendship will be but through observing or listening to experience of others you will be able to generally say that when parties who are in a relationship behave in a certain manner the possible outcomes are like this or that for example cheating couples are likely to experience a lot of disagreements in their marriage.

Human beings are social creatures who feel comfortable, happy and fulfilled when they mingle with others, share with others and care for others as well as their environment.

When they relate with nature and fellow human being in a positive way they enjoy and wish the ties created during the interactions become tighter and tighter but that is not always the case at times their relationship may be deteriorating from time to time and this poses a huge threat to them.

When we talk about human to human interaction and relationships there may be various shared factors that strengthens the ties like similar ambitions, similar backgrounds, same religion, family acceptance, loyalty and trust among others.

Human behaviour may change from one time to the other from one location to the other depending on other factors which are both internal and external developments.

This being the case whenever you meet and befriend someone you cannot automatically rule whether that person will be forever kind to you or may turn to be hostile whether in short run or long run.

It is not a wonder that some people who may wish to benefit from being associated to you may fake their appreciation for you only to defraud you or fulfill other selfish personal interests like accessing your network of friends through your friendship.

It is tricky to theoretically describe how your friendship will be but through observing or listening to experience of others you will be able to generally say that when parties who are in a relationship behave in a certain manner the possible outcomes are like this or that for example cheating couples are likely to experience a lot of disagreements in their marriage.

All what is advisable is to remain optimistic about the other people who you interact with because a person may be friendly to you but unfriendly to someone else close to you. Human habits are prone to change. An unfriendly person today may turn to be the greatest friend tomorrow.

In human relations only interest lasts forever. Owing to the unpredictability of human relationships we shall discuss some of the common fears between the parties involved.

It is likely to find a girl or a boy who is afraid to approach a potential partner for the fear that he or she may be rejected and rejection is shameful.

The fear especially by a girl could also be necessitated by perception than if she makes the first move in a relationship she may be mistaken to be a loose person but this is not necessarily the case, it may be a golden opportunity so better to make the move in a polite and kind way if you succeeds well and good, if you get rejection move forward no regrets you have already expressed you interest.

There are other people who think that falling in love in a short period of time will make them to look like desperate in life forgetting that someone else may come and express his or her interest and carry the day. In such circumstances if you have not shown any interest you will have yourself to blame.

Overweight is another issue that makes some people to think that they will be rejected though it is not a permanent status it can be regulated through either dieting or exercising moreover why should someone judge self out of imaginations?

Why not take a step of faith and initiate a relationship if such issue like body size arises then deal with it? If body weight or related issues fail to arise well and good happily continue with your life.

Many stories are told about successful dating and horrible dates so you may find pessimists who take interest in the worst outcomes every time they see a potential suitor what clicks in their mind is the worst possible scenario, this inhibits them from progressing in any relationship, they live in fearful world.

There is another category of people who fear that they will fail to find someone compatible with them forgetting than no human being is perfect and life is dynamic so is human behaviour. Through knowing someone and regularly interacting with that person you can influence his or her decision to develop interest or disinterest in you.

Women who have children from previous relationships fear that they may be rejected when their prospective suitors realize that they have children but this does not always hold to be the truth. Many are examples of such children who have been accepted by their foster fathers and live happily with them

Every person have a fear of one thing or the other. Some sort of fear is not bad it help you to remain alert and to some extent be safe.  The fear should be managed to ensure that it does not make you unable to function.  Failure to have any kind of fear will make you inhuman as you will have no feeling when doing good or bad, you will also fail to have empathy.

There are genuine relationship experiences that can be obtained through interaction with people. You ought to be self-aware by learning what your fears like failure, loss and embarrassment all which render you inactive. Acknowledge them then try to manage them.

You should not let them prevent from enjoying the life. You should try not to experience your fears and with time they will gradually fade away.

You should also train to be optimistic, accept and love others.

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