When To Prawn On


By: Theodore John
johntheodore09@gmail.com

Worth Noting:

  • A couple of people are not ready to swallow the bitter reality of their ride being over and acknowledge that it’s high time they leave the bus. They invest their hopes in waiting for the engines to give another kick.
  • It is these hopes that eat up a lot of energy to an extent that one does not realize how fast time is moving. The dreams of the previous innuendos supersede the harsh reality of loneliness and emotional independence.
  • Like a tick to a dead animal, they cling to the memories and play possum that the current situation is just a bump that is fixable. Or rather, a hiccup that passes away with the test of time. The question is, how long will this hope hold? Are you patient enough to wait for the miraculous resurrection?

Many a time it is questioned how long it would take for someone to move on after a breakup. Or rather, why is it that someone can’t just move on after a breakup. Well, naturally, there are those who will easily and fast be over their exes, going about their normal businesses without a single memorial wink of the previous partner. Others, on the other hand, would take an eternity of internal battles so as to get over their past relationship(s). In this, I’m not talking of the psychopathic clingy type that operate in the obsessive margins.

So, why is it like this? What is the determining factor to why we get to move on fast, or gradually and slowly, or even never move on after an idyllic love story gone sour? How can we know that it’s time we move on? Is it that we’re pushing that closed door for too long, too hard? Or did we just give up knocking too soon? It may sound like a hard nut to crack, but again, won’t the odds be too obvious if we hold to a higher stance?

Presumably, every individual operates under variant emotional ambage. Relationships come with a package of attachment and commitments which play out quite parallel with each individual. These are expressed emotionally, physically, mentally and even psychologically. There is that connection of mutuality that builds up in a relationship to a pinnacle where there is a regard in assumption of ownership and belonging. It’s in this where you’ll hear such as my man, my woman and all the possessive phrases that act as jurisdictional words of ownership.

It’s conclusive that the above will sure change the behaviours, characters and motional perception of the love birds which will relatively indulge their choices and decisions to a common point. After a breakup, there is a realization that the mutualism is no longer there and independence becomes a new path to saunter into. There is no longer that pillar to hold on to anymore and every time you need someone to hold you, your first stop is at him/her. The earlier you understand the act of emotional independence and burry the mutualism, the sooner you get to move on.

Relatively, so many people hold on to the carcasses of their dead love with hopes of magical resurrection. There is an inward ear in the heart that the doors might just once more open up to them. Honestly speaking, getting over someone isn’t just a snap of a finger especially after a long sail into the strange lands of love pleasantries and pleasures.

A couple of people are not ready to swallow the bitter reality of their ride being over and acknowledge that it’s high time they leave the bus. They invest their hopes in waiting for the engines to give another kick.

It is these hopes that eat up a lot of energy to an extent that one does not realize how fast time is moving. The dreams of the previous innuendos supersede the harsh reality of loneliness and emotional independence.

Like a tick to a dead animal, they cling to the memories and play possum that the current situation is just a bump that is fixable. Or rather, a hiccup that passes away with the test of time. The question is, how long will this hope hold? Are you patient enough to wait for the miraculous resurrection?

Generally, it is a debatable topic to battle on how soon someone should kick the road after the love ship wrecks. Again, I’m not to judge on anyone whether s/he moves on slow, fast or never at all. I believe that everyone’s foot has a different size and unless the shoe fits, it isn’t the right shoe. But, if the door doesn’t seem to be open, I don’t see the need to keep knocking. You might be losing the chance to walk into another door just next by.

About The Author:

Theodore John is an Oceanography student at Technical University of Mombasa with a passion for content writing and aqua life.  With his rich knowledge in the world of literature, he extends his hands to writing blogs, short stories, novels, poems among other various works of literature that speak on contemporary issues faced in our everyday lives. In his writings, he keeps to his favourite quote, “Until it touches the last soul, it’s not yet done.

Connect with Theodore:

Email: johntheodore09@gmail.com

Twitter: @TheodoreJn00

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